It is so tempting to an exhausted parent...putting their Sweet Pea in a crib and closing the door to let them cry it out so that they can all get some sleep. We encourage our students to nurture instead of ignore their infant's cry in class, and in today's VLOG we share why we suggest our students find other options:
Ahh – today’s blog post is inspired by the class on
postpartum we just taught and two of our sweet students who are going through
some sleepless nights with their daughters.
Warm thoughts and wishes for the sandman are being sent for them.
A common suggestion when babies are sleepless is to let them cry it out, also
known as CIO. I cringe when I see those
words. I believe that babies are meant
to be with their mamas for the first nine months of their lives – you can read
more about why I believe that
Every parent wonders when they are going to be able to sleep again. It comes up on message boards
everywhere: When will I sleep
again? How do I train my baby to
sleep? Can’t I just let them cry it out
If you know me, you probably already what my answer is…your baby was designed a
certain way. Their cry is a signal that
something is wrong and your attention is required to attend to your child and
build that confidence between you and them.
Your babies are not supposed to sleep through the night –
The night arrived again – when we say farewell to our
students and wish them the best for their birth and the journey of family upon
which they are about to embark. Bruss
always tells the first-time parents that he is jealous of them because there is
nothing else like the experience of welcoming your first child and discovering
parenthood for the first time.
I reflect and wonder if we have told them everything, showed
them everything, practiced everything – which is of course, realistically,
This post has been taken down temporarily as I work with Dr. Smillie to represent the information from her seminar accurately. Thank you in advance for your understanding.
Please check back in the future to read about the following topics:
- The Mother-Baby as a single biological unit
- Crying it out
- Oxytocin and it's function outside of labor
- Milk Supply
(Left: Angelika & I with
Dr. Christina Smillie...see the picture on top? You can tell this is one passionate doctor - she has a heart for babies.
Welcome to this month’s
post from Debbie Gillespie, IBCLC, RLC.
You can find her at Modern Mommy Boutique on Monday mornings at 10:00 am
for a FREE Breastfeeding Support Group, and she will also be featured here on
the fourth Friday of every month. Please see the end of the post for
Debbie's contact information if you are interested in reaching her for more
information, or to find registration information for her Breastfeeding 101 Class
offered on the 2nd Saturday of the month (October 8, 2011).
My child is crying and I don't know what to do - help!!
It would be nice if all our days as parents were smooth sailing and sunny skies. The reality is that all babies and children have fussy or weepy days - the Bumpy Days on the parenting road.
The most important thing to do when our children are crying more than
usual is to rule out illness. Check their temperature, look for rashes,
examine whether or not their activity levels and/or appetites have
changed in the last 24 hours.
I was poking around on-line and found an interesting
question on a forum:
“Should I let my newborn cry it out?”
I find this question disturbing on a lot of different
levels. I cannot even begin to tell you
how upset it makes me that people even consider this as an option. I verge on hysterical emotion when I say,
“No, for the love of your child, go to them and see what they need!”
Then I wonder – why would they stop crying when everything
in their new world is unfamiliar? Your
newborn (up to 28 days old in medical terms) is experiencing everything for the