We have the fortunate situation where our alumni ask to come back to take a refresher course when they are preparing for their next children.
When these couples take a class together, we still follow the same course outline because the material makes sense in a different way now that they have a reference point for what they are learning.
We also add a little section to each class to talk about sibling preparation. This fall, we are going to devote some of our Tuesday posts to some of the material we are sharing with them "just in case" it may come in handy for some of our readers, too.
The transition from one child to two children was the hardest for us. We didn't know how the family dynamics were going to go. Would our oldest feel abandoned when we left for the hospital? Would she feel betrayed when we brought a new child home? Would we have time for her? And how about the new baby? Would we be able to bond with them and still meet the needs of our oldest child?
One of the things we did to reassure our oldest and give her some sense of what to expect was to create a visual birth plan for her. I didn't take a picture of it - who knew I would be teaching sibling preparation some day??
Two points to consider:
1. What do they need to know to feel secure? The simpler, the better.
2. How can you portray those ideas visually for non-readers? You could find pictures on the internet, have them make the drawings, cut out pictures from magazines, or use pictures from their birth to illustrate the ideas that are important to your family.
Here is a rough idea :
(Person or People) will come over to stay with you while Mommy and Daddy are at the hospital
Mommy and Daddy will go work at the hospital
Mommy, Daddy and Baby will come home in a few days
If you are ready for more sibling preparation ideas, click HERE.
How did you prepare older children for a sibling's arrival?
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