Today’s post is short and to the point. This letter was inspired by four strong mamas that have come through our classes recently. They are having the type of breastfeeding complications that can very understandably make people give up on breastfeeding…for their specific stories check back on Friday.
They have persevered through some incredibly tough breastfeeding situations and they have raised my level of amazement in human nature. It’s easy to make the commitment to breastfeed when it works – it is another thing entirely to feed your baby breastmilk via pumps and bottles, and keep it up for weeks and weeks, not knowing if this is going to be your “new normal”.
I also want to put my Bradley Method® teacher hat on and state each family needs to evaluate their situation and decide which path is right for them. This is not a judgment on parents who choose to formula-feed – they have their reasons and that decision is right for them. My goal with this post is to encourage the families who want to breastfeed because that is the choice they want for their family, and let them know that other people have been in a tough place and made the choice work for them.
To our incredible students, here what I imagine your baby would like to say to you:
Thank you for giving me your breastmilk. It means so much to me that I am growing and thriving thanks to that warm, white, ever-so-yummy liquid perfection from your body to mine.
I am so grateful that you are pumping to feed me. My tummy likes the texture. My gut likes the way it’s digested. My immune system appreciates the extra boost. My brain likes the way it gets to grow. My heart likes the way it makes me feel.
I know I fuss when I am at the breast sometimes, and I am sorry I am giving you a mixed signal. I love it when you hold me close. I love the warmth of your breast. I love the smell of your skin. I am just as frustrated as you are that we cannot seem to be “doing the dance” in sync right now.
I know it must be exasperating to take me to one appointment after another and not get the answers you need to hear. I appreciate that you take the time to dress me up and take me out anyway – I know you believe in us. I trust that you will persist until we find the answers that we need to nurse together the way we both want to. I won’t give up on you. Please don’t give up on me.
I also know you are working hard - you don't get to fall asleep right after you feed me. You have to wash and sterilize and set up for the next time you are going to pump. I know you are tired and still you persist.
Please continue to pump to feed me. And even though I can’t imagine how devastating it is to know it’s not enough to nourish me, please, please, keep putting me to the breast. Even though you don’t feel like it’s getting us anywhere, I treasure that extra closeness and the time next to your sweet skin.
I love you mommy. I am so grateful you were chosen to be my mamma. I will never be able to thank you enough for persisting through this rough patch to give me my unique milk and offer me the opportunity to receive nature’s perfect gift – the milk you are making just for me.
With much love and appreciation,
Your Sweet Pea
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