Sweet Peas, Pods & Papas: All About Birth, B@@bs & Babies
The female form is beautifully made to grow a baby and birth a baby. Birthing wisdom tells us that, in general, Sweet Peas will not grow bigger than the outlet the vessel carrying them can provide.
Another idea that is brought to mind is the analogy that our bodies know how to maintain our heart beat, breathe, digest, and do all the other autonomic functions that keep us alive. All this, without any instruction or direction from us! Why, then, would these miraculous bodies fail us when it comes to childbirth?
We just completed our winter series...now patiently waiting for the newest Sweet Peas - first EDDs are at the beginning of March :)
As you approach your Sweet Pea's Birth-Day, this mantra encourages you to remember two things:
ONE: You have done everything right - you've read, you've eaten well, you've exercised, you have prepared. Let the distractions go and focus on the positive outcome that you have prepared for. Keep practicing your relaxation techniques and read over your options for labor positions so that when labor starts, you can tune into Mom's needs and labor together for your best birth given your particular set of circumstances.
Here are Dr. Bradley’s "Keys to Labor", as per his book, Husband-Coached Childbirth. I love these simple steps – they could almost be considered a “recipe” for
If you follow these steps, you
can figure out if you are in “real” labor.
If you are not, somewhere along these steps, your contractions will fizzle
out. And if they do, mama has eaten
well, slept, and hopefully had a good nap so that you are rested for the next round
of contractions when they begin again.
We saw that one of our mamas from our Fall class is in labor...so exciting! I thought today would be a great day to share these instructions Dr. Bradley left for laboring mothers in his book, Husband-Coached Childbirth.
Here is a written version:
Here is a visual version:
I hope that one of them will be a great reminder for what you can do to have the energy you need to see your labor through from beginning to end when it's your turn. I will write more about the principles behind these bullet points tomorrow :)
We are reviewing the stages of labor as we are entering the last classes of our series. One of the big outward signs that labor is progressing is the mother's loss of modesty.
A dad, asked, "What does that mean, losing modesty?" So here is a visual as well as a description of what your partner may be doing as she loses modesty.
This is what I look like on a regular, non-labor day. I usually have my arms covered, my clothes is loose, I almost always wear pants. Occasionally, I wear pedal pushers.
Here are some of the ways we recommend our students
manage their labor without analgesics or anesthetics. Even when they are used in labor, we are so happy that our couples use them as tools to manage a long labor and their children are born nursing vigorously and with high APGAR scores.
Mom and Coach are informed.
Through the course of The Bradley Method® class series,
parents are taught about what to expect as “normal” in labor, what the
variations on normal might be, the different options and interventions in
labor, and how to recognize a complication that warrants a change in the plan
for a Healthy Mom, Healthy Baby outcome.
We have had a couple of students have had textbook “NAPS” in
the last two classes…and since we still have several couples waiting for their
babies, I thought this might be a reminder and an inspiration to them for their
labors. NAP – no, they didn’t take epic
naps in labor (although I am a big advocate for sleeping in labor)…what it
means is that they were very patient in their labors.
One of the cornerstones of The Bradley Method® is a Healthy
Mom, Healthy Baby outcome. All of the
discussion below only applies if Mom and Baby are not showing any signs of
distress through labor.
We have now had 28 students complete our Bradley Method®
classes and birth their babies through seven class series – pretty awesome to
know that 28 youngsters are blessed with parents who took the time to give them
healthy pregnancies and Healthy Mom, Healthy Baby births.
Here are two more herbal therapies we used in
preparation for our homebirth. As I
commented in myfirst post
about the things we did differently as a result of our choice to have a homebirth, I have no idea why these are not more widely used
in pregnancy. The only idea that has occured
to me since then is that since these are not pharmaceuticals, there is no money to be made
from promoting them.
Herbs have been used as “medicine” for countless years. As such, I must put on my Bradley® instructor
hat here and say that these worked for our family; each family must do their
own research and decide if any of these herbal therapies are suitable for them.
The night arrived again – when we say farewell to our
students and wish them the best for their birth and the journey of family upon
which they are about to embark. Bruss
always tells the first-time parents that he is jealous of them because there is
nothing else like the experience of welcoming your first child and discovering
parenthood for the first time.
I reflect and wonder if we have told them everything, showed
them everything, practiced everything – which is of course, realistically,