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There is no time like the present to let go of the situations and the people that are not serving a positive purpose in our lives, or from which (or whom) we have finished learning the lessons they were meant to teach us.
Pregnancy and postpartum are time of threshold and initiation. They are times when things are new, when things are in transition, and when quite frankly, they are sometimes completely turned around and upside down.
In times like this, the extra stress of situations that bring negativity are the things that keep us from being present for ourselves and for our baby.
We see and hear birth “bumper stickers” every day…
“I am strong”
“My body is built for birth”
“My body, my baby, my birth”
And the list goes on.
The problem is…that these one-liners are not always true. This leaves countless women feeling like they were lied to, cheated, betrayed; it might make them feel like they are failures, defective, broken, weak…
When the truth is…there is nothing wrong with them. As a birth culture meaning to do well by making women believe they are capable and strong, by trying to empower them with reassuring phrases, we are inadvertently creating these expectations that are impossible to make true all the time.
Here is the video with the answer to today's question. Keep scrolling for more of the information we learned in our Bonus Class with Jennifer, and for links to on-line meditation resources!
If you follow us on social media, you probably know that
Cassandra, our guest blogger and social media maven, is expecting her second
Sweet Pea any day now. As a matter of
fact, she is 41 weeks today.
When we were corresponding last week, she sent a plea that
most pregnant women in their last weeks of pregnancy send:
“I need something; grounding, reassurance; I’m not sure!”
I sent her some ideas to help pass the time until it’s “real
McCoy” labor…she will be writing a post about that later in the week (maybe!
When I tell people that they are going to be able to rest in labor as it intensifies, they look at me like I am crazy. How can a mama in labor possibly rest when contractions are coming two to three minutes apart??
I think if you can wrap your mind around the idea of resting between contractions, it becomes a more realistic possibility. If you can actually go to sleep, great! If not, a deep and complete relaxation can be hugely beneficial to help the mother conserve energy.
So how does it work in real life?
The female form is beautifully made to grow a baby and birth a baby. Birthing wisdom tells us that, in general, Sweet Peas will not grow bigger than the outlet the vessel carrying them can provide.
Another idea that is brought to mind is the analogy that our bodies know how to maintain our heart beat, breathe, digest, and do all the other autonomic functions that keep us alive. All this, without any instruction or direction from us! Why, then, would these miraculous bodies fail us when it comes to childbirth?
Whether you have a long labor, a short labor, or something in between, there will come a time when you have to draw within yourself to gather the energy you need to see your birth through. This was definitely my favorite affirmation - mantra really - as we hit the point in labor when there was barely time to let go of all the tension before another contraction started again.
I envisioned the energy around me as a vortex, and as I inhaled I swirled energy into me and as I exhaled I sent all my tiredness and tension away.
A couple of birth stories have really brought to mind a mantra that was so beneficial to Bruss and I when we were laboring with Otter:
"We will give our baby the giftofthe birththatshe needs."
It was so important to us that we have undisturbed time, free of the pressure of "the clock" for things to happen, free of vaginal exams that have always been difficult for me due to past trauma, and most of all - we wanted to be free of any interventions.
Believe it or not, even though we were birthing at home, there were things our midwives were prepared to offer us to help "speed things up".
of Natural MotheringApril 2014: What You Wish You KnewRemember when you got your first positive
pregnancy test? What do you wish that woman knew? Write a letter of love and
encouragement to that awesome mama just starting her journey.
Dear New Mama:
Yes, you. I skipped
over the “mother-to-be”. You are already
growing life, and you are already aware of that life and protective of that
life…as I see it, there is no “to-be” in mothering. It is a state of being since you got your