We continue on with our "Ask the Doula" series. Today my friend Darcy shares her thoughts on how a doula might handle family members in the birthing space:
Here is a summary of Darcy's thoughts for you:
Recognize that family may have been waiting for 9-10 months sometimes longer
Honor all family at a birth
As a doula, I try to make myself small if there are a lot of people. I make the effort not to take up more space than I need to
Roles: do you assign everyone in attendance something to do?
That would be something to discuss with the couples during a prenatal visit with the doula.
Ask: Who is coming?
Prepare them for what is happening during the birth process so that they can share them with the family
Once the baby is out, everyone is very excited!
Remind the family that even though the baby is here, it’s not the end of the work for mom.
Sometimes there is repair work that needs to be done.
Give mom+partner power to say they need space or that people are welcome.
Goal: Empower the nuclear family
It is so individual ~ every family is different
There may be cultural elements to consider
Every one has a good vision for what they want
Tools to Be able to set up boundaries
No – this is enough
Or now is the time – you get this much time
Empower moms to set up the boundaries they need for their nuclear family
THANK YOU, Darcy, for your time and your thoughtful answer <3
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Phone Number: 602-402-0855
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