If you follow us on social media, you probably know that
Cassandra, our guest blogger and social media maven, is expecting her second
Sweet Pea any day now. As a matter of
fact, she is 41 weeks today.
When we were corresponding last week, she sent a plea that
most pregnant women in their last weeks of pregnancy send:
“I need something; grounding, reassurance; I’m not sure!”
I sent her some ideas to help pass the time until it’s “real
McCoy” labor…she will be writing a post about that later in the week (maybe!).
I also sent her some words that she turned into a beautiful
image for the lock screen on her phone:
Art Piece by Alisha Vernon
Image credit: Cassandra Okamoto
While I hope they offer her (and anyone else they speak to)
some reassurance, energy and courage, I offer them with love and caution.
After taking the first part of a training offered by
Birthing From Within, I am painfully aware of the power of the words we use,
especially around the topic of birth. As
Pam England calls them, these “bumper stickers” of the birthing world can be
These bumper stickers are ideas like, “Trust Birth”,
“Empowered Birth”, “Birth Works” – you catch my drift. If they hold true, they have the potential to
encourage the mother throughout labor and motherhood. On the other hand, say the birth has
unforeseen or outcomes the mother/family did not prepare for or expect…then the
woman might be left feeling powerless, helpless, something like a failure.
So when you read the mantra and absorb the message, hear all
of what I am trying to convey:
Your body and your baby are functioning within a cycle of
birth that is timeless. There is sacredness and beauty in the process of
pregnancy, labor and birth.
The reality is that even with the best preparation, birth is
unique, fluid and unpredictable. I feel like the words I sent Cassandra give any birthing
family the “permission” to embrace even an “imperfect” birth, for *that* journey
was what *that* body and *that* baby needed for a Healthy Mom, Healthy Baby outcome.
I encourage you to adjust your lens: instead of focusing on
the outcome, embrace the journey. What
are you meant to learn from this journey through pregnancy, labor and
birthing? By maintaining a realistic
outlook that sometimes interventions are necessary and desirable for a Healthy
Mom, Healthy Baby outcome, you can mentally prepare for the outliers and then
celebrate the baby instead of the process.
So please embrace all of it – whatever happens, your body
and your baby know what kind of birth they need for both of you to be well
after the journey. Sometimes Mother
Nature needs no help at all, or sometimes a little encouragement. At the other extreme, sometimes it takes all of the available medical
technology to have a Healthy Mom, Healthy Baby outcome. Embrace it, accept it, own it, learn from it. It is your unique birth journey into
motherhood, waiting just for you to uncover all the lessons and treasures hidden as
unexpected forks in the road.
Do you have a favorite affirmation? What encouraged you?
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