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I would use these words
when I started to feel things move out of control in our labor. Being a very list-oriented, can-do type of
person, it takes me a long time to surrender to the power and unpredictability of
When I finally do, I have to convince myself that I am not broken because it
takes me much longer than other women to birth (it’s a vicious cycle!). Instead of holding back the intensity, I tell
myself that in order to birth, I have to welcome the power of the contractions
and allow them to take over my body. I
see it as a release of the conscious (head: this is labor and I can do it) to
the acceptance of the primal (heart: this is much bigger than I am and it is
I do not like relinquishing control.
Reminding myself that I can control my calmness in face of the power,
and I can control how well I relax, helps me to finally give in and completely
surrender to the labor so I can finally meet our Sweet Pea. Instead of focusing on the intensity, I focus
instead of how I manage that intensity.
I remember to breathe in calm and exhale the building tension. I hear Coach Bruss telling me that I am doing
well, and he reminds me to stay loose, limp and relaxed.
So that is how maintain clarity through the increasing intensity. I have confidence in my coach, our baby, our
birth team, and myself. I feel that I am
calm and relaxed. I can do this.
Do the words calm & relaxed reassure you? Which words help you?
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