Am I Crazy: Ideas for Birth Anxiety
Sweet Pea Births - ...celebrating every sweet pea and their birth
RSS Follow Become a Fan

Delivered by FeedBurner


Recent Posts

In Their Own Words: Katie
Monday Mantra: Wonder Woman SuperPower
In Their Own Words: Amy
Monday Mantra - Letting Go
Monday Mantra: Nourish Body + Baby

Most Popular Posts

An Inside Look: Modern Mommy Boutique
Breastfeeding Support Groups: La Leche League
A Look At the honest company
An Inside Look: Placenta Encapsulation
Mommy-Con Phoenix Ticket Giveaway

Categories

Acupuncture
Affirmation
Allergies
Amniotomy
AROM
Artifical Rupture of Membranes
Ask the Doula
Augmentation
Avoiding harmful substances
Baby
Baby blues
Baby Concierge
Baby games
Baby-led weaning
Babymoon
Babywearing
Back Labor
Bag of Waters
Bedtime Routine
Belly Cast
Berman's Law
Big Latch On
Birth
Birth center
Birth Centers Phoenix AZ area
Birth Circle
Birth Mantra
Birth News
Birth place options
Birth plans
Birth Story
Birth Story Listening
Birthing From Within
Blog Carnival
BLW
Bradley Day Family Picnic
Bradley Method®
Bradley Method® birth story
Bradley Method® for next baby
Bradley Method® for second pregnancy
Bradley Method® outcome
Bradley® Coaches
Bradley® Dads
Bradley™ classes and the next baby
Bradley™ classes for next pregnancy
Bradley™ classes for second pregnancy
Breast Pumps
Breast Pumps and Workplace
Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding 101
Breastfeeding Awareness Month
Breastfeeding Challenges
Breastfeeding in Public
Breastfeeding support
Breech presentation
Breech turning techniques
Cassandra Okamoto
Cephalo-Pelvic Disproportion
Cesarean Birth
Cesarean Support Group
Cesarean Surgery
Child Spacing
Childcare
Children's Books
Chiropractic Care
CIO
Circumcision
Co Sleeping
Coaches
Coaching
Coach's Corner
Comfort Measures
Communication
Contest
Cord Clamping
CPD
Cry It Out
Crying
Dairy Allergy
Debbie Gillespie, IBCLC, RLC
Dehydration and Pregnancy
Delayed Cord Clamping
Depression
Doulas
Drinking during labor
Due Date
Eating during labor
Eclampsia
ECV
Engorgement
Epidural
Episiotomy
Essential Oils
Exercise
External Cephalic Version
Eye Drops
Eye Ointment
Eye Prophylaxis
Failure to Progress
Family Bed
Family Fest
Family Fun
Fear-Tension-Pain Cycle
Fertility
Fetal Distress
First Birthday
First Foods for baby
First stage labor
First Trimester
Flower Essences
Fluid Retention
FTP
Full term
Fussy baby
Galactogogues
Gestational Diabetes
Giveaway
Going to your birthplace
Gowning
Green Nursery
Grief Counseling and Support Services
Healing
Healthy, Low-Risk
Hearing Screen
Heat Comfort Measures
Herbalist
Homebirth
Hospital Birth
Hyperemesis Gravidarum
Hyperthermia and Pregnancy
IBCLC
Immediate Cord Clamping
In Their Own Words
Increase Breastmilk
Induction
Induction of Labor
Infant Care
Infant Classes
Infections and Pregnancy
Info Sheet
Information Center
Information Sheet
Informed Consent
Inside Look
Jaundice
La Leche League
Labor Augmentation
Labor Induction
Labor Marathon
Labor Sprint
Labor Support
Lactation Consult
Lactation Consultation
Lactivist
Managing or coping with natural labor
Mantra
Maternity Keepsake
Meditation
Meet the Doula
Membranes
Midwife
Midwifery Care
Midwifery Scope of Practice Committee
Milk Supply
Miscarriage or Stillbirth
Modern Mommy Boutique
Mommy-Con
Monday Mantra
Monitrice
Morning Sickness
NAP
Natural Alignment Plateau
Natural birth
natural labor coping mechanisms
Natural labor coping techniques
Nausea
Neonatal Eye Drops
Neonatal Eye Ointment
Neonatal Eye Prophylaxis
Newborn
Newborn Care
Newborn jaundice
Newborn Procedures
Next baby
Next pregnancy
NICU
NIP
NPO
Nursery
Nursing
Nursing and Maternity Bras
Nursing In Public
Nursing Strike
Nutrition
Obstetrical Care
Oxytocin
Pain
Pain management
Pain management natural labor
Parenting
Past due date
Patient Bill of Rights
Perineum
Phoenix Mommy-Con Mini
Photographer
Placenta
Placenta Encapsulation
Planning for Baby
Playing with baby
Postdate
Postmature baby
Postpartum
Postpartum Depression
Postpartum Doula
Postpartum Plan
Pre-eclampsia
Preemies
Pregnancy
Pregnancy Loss
Premature Baby
Premature Ruptture of Membranes
Pre-term Labor
Prolonged Labor
PROM
Q&A with SPB
Rally to Improve Birth
Relaxation
Relaxation practice
Repeat Bradley™ classes
Rights for Homebirth
ROM
RSV
Rupture of Membranes
Scavenger Hunt
Second Stage Labor
Sensory games
Sibling Preparation for Newborn Arrival
Sleep Sharing
Sling
Soft-structured carrier
Starting Solids
Stripping Membranes
Support Groups
Sweeping Membranes
Sweet Pea Births
Swelling in Pregnancy
Tandem Nursing
Teething
The Bradley Method®
The Bradley Method® classes
The Bradley Method® pain management
Third Trimester
Thoughtful Thursday
Tongue Tie
Tongue Tie Procedure
Toxins, pesticides, chemicals and pregnancy
Traditions
Transition
Twins
Upcoming Events
Use of vacuum extraction
Uterine Rupture
Vaccines
Vaginal Birth After Cesarean
Vaginal Birth After Multiple Cesareans
Variations and Complications
VBAC
Vitamin K
Warning Labels
Waterbirth
WBW2013
Weaning
Webster Protocol
Weekend Activities
Why we chose the Bradley Method® childbirth classes
Wordless Wednesday
World Breastfeeding Week
Wrap
powered by

Sweet Peas, Pods & Papas: All About Birth, B@@bs & Babies

Am I Crazy: Ideas for Birth Anxiety

Every once in a while, a mom who is coming down the home stretch in her pregnancy will ask us this question.  The realization that this baby growing inside of her needs to come out hits the conscious mind, and panic ensues!  (News flash: it has happened to me every pregnancy!)

First of all, let me assure you that you are not alone.  At some point, many of us have the “light bulb moment” and magnitude of what is about to happen becomes real: you are going to labor, you will give birth, you are going to become a parent, and a new life will be dependent on you.  Depending on how you process these realizations, you could be completely at peace or you could come unglued, and everything in between.

First, we offer words of comfort that it is okay and you are not alone.  Giving birth, especially for the first time, is full of unknowns.  What will contractions feel like?  Can I handle them?  Will I know I am in labor? What will labor be like?  How long will it be? 

The list goes on…the only questions that are answered by the first labor are what contractions will feel like.  Even then, sometimes the quality and the feel of the contractions may change on how the baby is positioned. 

Next, we offer words of assurance are that the questions and the concern are signs that you care.  You showed that you care by signing up for a childbirth preparation course, especially a comprehensive one like The Bradley Method®, which is a twelve-week commitment to prepare for the best birth possible.  What you prepare as your Birth Plan (we call it the Wish List) may go completely out the window.  However, by taking the time to educate yourself as a mom and coach, you will make the decisions together for a Healthy Mom, Healthy Baby outcome.  As your instructors, we hope that you will be proud of your baby’s birth story, and confident that together you made the choices that led to the birth your baby needed.

After that, we offer words of action:  Excel at the things that are within your control.
Focus your energy on the things you can do:
  • Eat a healthy, high-protein (75-100 g/day), whole food diet that builds a strong baby and strong, stretchy uterus and connective tissues in mom. 
  • You can ensure that you build your stamina by walking at least 20 minutes per day.
  • You can practice your relaxation techniques and ensure you have a well-stocked toolbox when labor starts.
  • You can do labor rehearsals to train your body to remember the length of minute (most contractions are about that long, and when they get longer you are probably close to the end!) and to build a muscle memory of different labor positions and their benefits (some are good for moving baby down, others serve well for posterior babies, etc.).
  • You can choose a care provider that sees birth the same way you do, and that you can trust implicitly should you come to a place when decisions need to be made.

Lastly, we encourage you to embrace your fears – concerns – stress…which ever word(s) apply to you.  You cannot be in control of everything.  You can however face what you are feeling, ask yourself if you can change those or let them go, and take control of how you want to deal with them.  Will a self-administered fear release exercise work for you?  Do you want to work with a facilitator?  Do you need to see a counselor? 

The one thing we do know is that labor amplifies whatever we are feeling.  If you are committed to a natural labor and delivery, you must deal with whatever fears you have, because fear is a closing emotion.  Do the work you need to do to fill your approach to labor with love and confidence so that you are open to the process, and so your labor can progress as unencumbered as possible.  

When you do the work to feel empowered and prepared, you and your coach can labor together towards a Happy Birth-Day.

Some recommended reading:
Aromatherapy
Flower Essences by Lotus Wei

Understanding the Fear-Pain-Tension Cycle
The Birth Book, William Sears, M.D., and Martha Sears, ©1994, Chapter 8, “Why Birth Hurts – Why It Doesn’t Have To”

Fear Release
Birthing From Within, Pamela England, CNM & Rob Horowitz, PhD., ©1998, See pages 118-119, 129, 131-132, 190, 192, 194-196

Meditations
http://www.pregnancy-to-childbirth.com/pregnancy-meditation.html

Disclaimer: 
The material included on this site is for informational purposes only.
It is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. The reader should always consult her or his healthcare provider to determine the appropriateness of the information for their own situation.  Krystyna and Bruss Bowman and Bowman House, LLC accept no liability for the content of this site, or for the consequences of any actions taken on the basis of the information provided.  This blog contains information about our classes available in Chandler, AZ and Payson, AZ and is not the official website of The Bradley Method®. The views contained on this blog do not necessarily reflect those of The Bradley Method® or the American Academy of Husband-Coached Childbirth®.

    
Bradley Method® natural childbirth classes offered in Arizona: Chandler, Tempe, Ahwatukee, Gilbert, Mesa, Scottsdale, Payson

0 Comments to Am I Crazy: Ideas for Birth Anxiety:

Comments RSS

Add a Comment

Your Name:
Email Address: (Required)
Website:
Comment:
Make your text bigger, bold, italic and more with HTML tags. We'll show you how.
Post Comment
Website Builder provided by  Vistaprint