Bruss suggested that I write about being pregnant today. It is so hard for me to address this topic.
When we started teaching, Bryan was turning one, and we were pretty sure we were going to have another baby. Seeing the pregnant women in our classes was exciting, and the possibility that I might be pregnant with one of our classes was kind of fun.
Now, we have had our fourth child. We feel like our family is complete. Which means I will never be pregnant again in my life. Ever. I have to admit, I am going to miss that incredible, miraculous time of two souls living in one body.
This is the first time since our Spring Series last year that we have all first-timers in our class. They are all about to enter the world of parenthood in the upcoming weeks…and it is fun to hear their conversations, their hopes, and their concerns as they chat amongst themselves before class starts or during snack time. Three weeks left for class…and then we start to hear about their babies and their birth stories. Yeah!
This class has had the unique opportunity to watch Angelika’s developmental milestones. When they started class, baby was still pretty portable – she was happy to be held by Bruss or I as we taught class. Then they saw her rocking on hands & knees – within a couple of weeks she was scooting; now, she is full-on crawling. They have been able to witness first-hand how quickly a baby changes. Our hope is that they will appreciate every moment with their own Sweet Peas once their children arrive: they have seen how fleeting time is with an infant.
I get to see the mamas growing bellies, and I see some of them starting to struggle with moving. I see how tired they are and try to teach as quickly as possible so they can get to bed. I remember so well the discomfort they are feeling, and yet, crazy me, I am going to miss it.
Like many pregnant women out there, I had miserable pregnancies on the physical spectrum. I waddled, my feet and fingers were swollen beyond recognition, I was so tired and sore at the end of the day that I would literally crawl into bed. I was so envious of the women who breezed through pregnancy in their cute high heels. I did it though, and was willing to go through it though more than once! Three times I endured the physical misery for the prospect of meeting our miraculous children.
I tolerated the physical discomforts in large part thanks to the power of positive thinking. In spite of the physical discomforts, I made every effort to focus on the positive. I was pregnant! My body worked! Bruss and I were going to get to meet a person that was miraculously created from a set of my cells of genetic code and a set of Bruss’s cells of genetic code! We actually got to see Ysabella inutero when she was the size of a grain of rice…and now she is a lovely young lady of seven years, 45 inches tall and 46 pounds of living, breathing flesh and bones. How two parts of two people join and grow this perfect little person that is born, and then continues to grow and thrive – if I could, I would actively participate in that miracle until the end of my life.
I also believed, and still believe, that the quality of our emotions affects our children. My philosophy is that they experience everything we feel, and I didn’t want the stress hormones created when we are angry, stressed or scared to affect our fetus’s development. Yoga, deep breathing, and positive visualization – I wanted our kiddos to feel loved and wanted even before they were in our arms. There is a whole group of people studying the effects of emotions inutero, if you want to read more about their work, click here: http://www.wendymccord.com/womb.html
Then we were under chiropractic care for the entirety of Angelika’s pregnancy. To say it was a night and day difference is an understatement. I was virtually pain-free, despite the fact I was tending to three older children and all their laundry! We spent the better part of the summer bing active at our home in Payson, Arizona. Her pregnancy was lovely! I didn’t waddle, I didn’t swell, and I could still walk at the end of the day with a genuine smile on my face. Hers was a very easy pregnancy to enjoy, and it is the kind of pregnancy I wish for every pregnant mama out there at least once.
Here are my hopes for all the pregnant students we have from here forward, because from now on I will have to live these vicariously through them. To all of you pregnant for the first time, enjoy the last few moments of “just me” or “just us”. I say this in a happy way – I am not one of those “my kids ruined my life” people. Our children have grown us and enriched us immeasurably. However, it is a fact of life that once they arrive, you will be tending to their wants and needs before yours. I choose to do it with a smile on my face because I chose to be parent. I hope you will find a way to enjoy your parenthood, too. So now that you know that I love our children and am happy to be a parent, consider these suggestions:
Cherish the time with your spouse – it will never be “just the two of you” again. Take the trip you want to take, go the places you want to go, have the talk you want to share – do them together and do them now.
Cherish the time for you – you will never have only yourself to answer to again. Go out to lunch with your co-workers and girlfriends. Go shopping, go to tea, get a massage – enjoy all your favorite things one last time before baby arrives. While you are at it, bask in your pregnancy glow and the congratulations of strangers, which leads me to say…
Cherish your first pregnancy. They are the last few weeks and days that you will be pregnant for the first time. It is a time of excitement and anticipation of the unknown. You are the center of attention and excitement of friends and family. Maybe people are celebrating you in special ways. Relish and enjoy every single second of being pregnant for the first time – it will never be a first time again.
Since May is the month in which we celebrate Mother’s Day, I will write more on this topic as I reflect on how motherhood has enriched my life. When you are pregnant, you are unique – you and your baby are inseparable and connected in a way no one else ever will be. I hope that you will take my words to heart and find a way to enjoy every minute, every second of pregnancy until you meet your baby.
What words of advice would you share with first-time mamas as they live through the last weeks of pregnancy?
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