The very active role of Dads (Mom’s coach) in pregnancy and labor separates the Bradley method from most other childbirth education.
Krystyna and I have had three wonderful Bradley inspired births. Our active partnership in the 40+ weeks of pregnancy AND dozens of hours of
laboring for each one of our children has deepened our relationship and
well prepared us for deliveries that closely met our pre-labor birth
plans. Indeed it is the active partnership, planning and communication
that sets a pregnant couple up for the highest probability of positive
outcome for their coming birth and beyond.
In our classes we work with coaches to focus and further the following
attributes to best support their partners in pregnancy and delivery. A coach needs to be:
The act of commitment is binding yourself intellectually and emotionally to a course of action. As a coach what are your goals for the pregnancy,
birth and beyond? Choosing pregnancy/birth goals with your partner is
the first step. Commit yourself to doing that first. There should also
be regular review of your goals to ensure that they continue to meet
your needs as you both progress through the pregnancy. Once you and
your partner are on the same page with the pregnancy goals then there is
a further level of commitment to achieving those outcomes. Truly there
should be nothing more important in your lives than a healthy
pregnancy/birth for Mom and baby. From experience I can tell you that
the time will go by VERY quickly. I recommend that you sweep aside all
other obstacles to focus as much energy as you can on your partner, her
pregnancy and the birth itself.
The energy and attitude that you bring to your job as coach for your
pregnant partner directly impacts the outcome of the pregnancy and
birth. Of course that doesn’t mean that your enthusiasm will guarantee a
great outcome but certainly your lack of involvement and enthusiasm
will dramatically lower the chances for a great outcome. Coaches focus on being eager to take part and support in whatever way you can, whenever you can for your partner. This is a wonderful time. Be excited for whatever challenges you may face through the pregnancy and birth. Enjoy the process for this time will pass in a blink of the eye.
Coaches, your partners are in the process of bringing a new life into this
world. It is a amazing process and gift. From the inception of the
pregnancy through the birth there will be numerous times that your
partner will need your strength. Especially for first time Moms, she is
venturing into the unknown and she will have doubts/concerns/fears
about many things, not the least of which is whether she will actually
be able to give birth. Realize that she will have these concerns/fears. From experience I can tell you that with each pregnancy/birth there
will come the time when she will need you to be strong for her when she
cannot. Be ready for that time and be prepared to be there for her when
she needs it most.
During the pregnancy your partner is undergoing tremendous change and is devoting huge energy to the baby and its growth. Your partner and the
baby need every amount of understanding you can muster during the
physical and emotional roller-coaster of pregnancy and birth. Learn as
much as you can about the birth process. Every birth is unique so study
not only the ‘standard’ birth process but also find out what can and
will vary. Prepare yourself for as many likely outcomes as possible and
be prepared to support your partner regardless of what happens.
Krystyna and I like to say that we have had four honeymoons. The first after our wedding and then three on the birthdays of our children. There is nothing that compares with working with your partner to bring a new life into the world. Realize that even though you are not the one giving
birth that your active involvement in the pregnancy and birth directly
impacts that quality of the outcome.
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